Yep! 72 hours, you read it right!
Last Wednesday I decided to go to Jamaica, I booked the ticket Thursday, and was on the Plane Friday. Crazy? some may say so, but if you follow me on Social Media, you know the opinions of others has little to no recourse on how I live my life. Proudly doing me since 1983! *giggles*
A fun getaway sounds like the most logical thing to do when having to endure the intense beating of these Northern Winters here in Canada. Jamaica is a great remedy for what is known as the “Winter Blues” which I suffer from.
This year has been particularly tough mourning my late Mother Sonia “Elaine” Reid. January 21st, 2018 would have been her 66th Birthday.
It has been tough processing this entire journey I have faced with her over these past several years, watching her become ill, to losing her independence, then her ability to walk, speak, eat and then eventually losing her life. She had a wish list when she was sick, one of them was to visit Jamaica one last time. She never made it, so this trip I took was for her. I did the things she would have done if she were alive and well today.
So I decided to go to Jamaica to connect with her love, My Dad.
Spending time in her place of Birth, smelling the Air, feeling the Sun on my Skin, connecting with the people who knew and loved her made me feel closer to her.
My Mother was Fun, full of life and was loved by everyone who knew her, so visiting her resting place for me was not the best way to commemorate someone so majestic and beautiful in my eyes.
I wanted to do something fun, light yet sentimental. So I packed her favourite Hat and brought it with me to the Beach…
I put it on my head, wrote her birth date in the Sand, told her I loved her, and then set the hat free in the Sea.
As I continue on what I affectionately call my “Healing Journey,” I have realized a few things:
1) That mourning truly comes in waves, it is not linear. A few weeks after my Mother passed away I was working on Projects, taking Trips and not really feeling the pain of her loss. Fast forward to almost a year and I now find myself quiet, withdrawn at times and reflecting on her often. It truly is a process, a Journey and I am no longer obsessed with the destination.
2) I realize that my Mother left me a number of legacies which I now cherish, one of which is the gift of Community. Surrounding me are Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Friends, Church Members, Acquaintances and so much more. She made it her duty that my Siblings and I had a loving circle around us that is still a huge part of my life today.
3) Time is so precious and limited. I decided the next 35 years will be dedicated to living a life of purpose, creating and living in peace. More growth, healing and try to be a blessing to others. Living my life exactly the way Mom did and would have wanted me too.
The Journey Continues…
Fun Travel Tips for All Parents, Proud Autism Parents and anyone planning on bringing the Kiddo’s on a fun excursion.
I am a PROUD AUTISM MOM! My Daughter Aniyah is 12 and to be honest she is one of my favourite traveling buddies. This kid is literally down for anything!..As long as she is fed and notified pre and during travel! lol
So here are some Fun Tips I have learned to keep Aniyah engaged and happy when traveling.
- LET THEM IN ON THE PLANS: I no longer assume her comprehension level simply because she communicates differently than I do. I have a conversation with her about the itinerary, I show her photos, tell her step by step what we are doing, where we are going and who we plan to see. By doing this it makes the transition easier for her and I find it minimizes any possible outbursts or behaviors that may have occurred otherwise. Aniyah is just like everyone else, she gets anxious when she does not know that plan, so including her and updating her is VERY important if we both want to have a good trip.
- HAVE YOUR SNACKS/SNACK MONEY ON DECK: This is not a game! I am not sure what the eating habits are for your child/children, but my Kiddo does NOT play games. She expects 3 meals + snacks no matter where we are, so it is imperative I plan ahead, pack something for the road and keep her hydrated.
- ELECTRONICS CAN BE YOUR FRIEND: I ensure Aniyah’s Ipad is charged, her favourite shows are downloaded and that apps are updated and ready to go! Most parents can relate to this, I am a firm believer in the tablet/Ipad ministry…it is a life saver.
- ENGAGE AND MAKE A GAME OF YOUR ADVENTURE: I try to book window seats when flying with my Daughter, she gets such a kick out of watching the Plane take off, looking at the shapes below etc. We point at objects, I try to get her to draw a picture or spell/write what she sees. Usually when we get home, we have a huge map that and we do fun reviews of where we travelled. Aniyah has an amazing memory so when we travel together I know I will be hearing about it from her for years to come. Traveling with her is my way of connecting to her, and it works. She seems to enjoy our time away together so now I have decided to make it an annual tradition.
JAMAICA IS HOME, I may not be born there, but everytime I go it fills me in ways I can not explain. 72 hours was not enough time, but gave me just the right amount of warmth I needed to kick my winter blues in the face, recharge my creative juices and reflect on a Woman I will forever love…My Mommy.
***Special mention goes to Monique Hughes from Globe Chasers International. Monique is now my new Travel Agent, she helped me book my getaway from start to finish! She even provides Airport pick up and drop off making the entire experience simple, easy and stress free.
Contact her directly for your next getaway: Moniquegci@nexioncanada.com
Until Next Time My Style Mavens…
May Love, Blessings & Light come and stay your way,